If you keep having the same fight, it’s likely a skill problem, not a character problem.
Communication is a skill. If you're struggling, it probably just means you need to work on some very specific training.
And here's the thing: it won't just magically get better on its own. Yes, there'll be better days and worse days. But if you're struggling, it won't fix itself unless you actually go learn the skills.
The options below will teach you how.
What’s Your Next Step?
Take a moment and decide how much time and energy you're willing to invest right now and choose the option that feels right for you.
This option is free, has no interaction with me, and requires very little time.
Three times in the next week, share highs and lows with your partner.
Take five minutes and tell each other what the high of your day was and what the low was. Then listen.
(If you just worked a forty eight hour shift, do it based on shift instead of days.)
This option is a free email tool. I’ll send you short email lessons that take less than 10 minutes per day.
Ready to do a little more but not quite ready for a full commitment?
The Protected Home Project is a free one month email challenge. Throughout the week I'll send you small lessons on things like moral injury, compassion fatigue, and how to have a real conversation.
You'll also start setting some goals for moving forward. Totally free. Just sign up.
This option includes options for more interaction with me and a higher investment of time and money.
If you're ready to get in and do the actual work, this is it.
Relationship Endurance is my eight week course that teaches you a specific, practical system for managing both your individual mental health and the health of your relationship. Dripped into your inbox day by day.
Accessible. No fluff. Built for people who are ready to move.
